If you feel like the normal methods of dating are not working for you or you do not have the time nor desire to try bar hopping, speed dating, or anything else, then you might want to give online dating a try. Just as with any other type of dating situation you need to go slow and be safe, especially at the start as you get to know the person and plan your first date to face meeting. But the facts and statistics show that online dating can be successful and it is becoming a very popular way for couples to meet and fall in love! The amount of people in the US that is single is just a little more than the amount of people that have tried online dating so you are definitely not the only one! Find the most important factors and other interesting online dating facts in this beautiful infographic below.
Online Dating in the US
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Making themselves seem better than everyone else
My husband and I met through a free online dating service. It took time and we had to each go through our fair share of creeps, weirdoes, and jerks before finding each other. If you are going to date online, then you need to be able to recognize the red alerts that will let you know you need to run away. This is not to say that online dating is not good or safe or a way to meet your special someone. It is just a valid dating medium than any other and there are many studies to back this up, but what it does mean is that you need to be careful and safe and be on the lookout for these red alerts that signal someone you do not want to get involved in. For guys and girls, both these are important things to look for and they were on the list of points both my husband and I looked for while we were giving online dating a try before we found each other.
For me and my husband, one of the biggest turn-offs were those profiles that made a person seem to be either God’s gift to men or God’s gift to women. I ever saw one guy’s profile where he called himself that. Needless to say, I did not even contact him back. Arrogant and boastful people were an instant no in my book.
They speak a lot but say very little
Hubby had a story of a girl who contacted him and would send long email notes that were just meaningless drabble, that ended up being mostly about her. I had gotten notes from guys on the site who said they had advanced degrees and were very formal and polished in their messages but they were hollow and empty. I’m an English major but I will take a heartfelt message with some slang and a misspelled word over a perfectly polished message that has no soul.
It’s a wonder they survived the ex’s according to them
If the guy or girl who has caught your attention has a long list of ex’s and it seems to always be that they were the victim then be wary. One or two, ok maybe they had bad luck. Many they will admit to at least partial blame. But when someone has three, four, five, or more ex’s in a few year’s time and it always seems to be the other person’s fault, that is a major red alert that should be going off in your head.
They move to fast
Believe it or not, I had guys asking to meet with me on our second email through the dating site. And I had guys ask me to go to their apartment after the first date. Major turn-offs in my book and it had me running as fast as I could the opposite direction. My husband and I took a few months talking online before we met for our face to face date, and we took things nice and slow and regret nothing that we did.
Now take all this information and start taking action, but with caution. Take your time and use the help and insights that are available online and on CandleLove. If you think you’re ready, then don’t hesitate to start reading our Chapters of Confidence for Men or Women and start your Transformation to happiness and confidence!