Everyone could use some helpful tips now and then when it comes to dating and many times those little reminders of what to keep in mind can make navigating through the dating world easier and more enjoyable. For those of us who have found our soul mate we often look back on that time and see the mistakes we made. Hindsight is always 20/20 and we often realize later how hard we made it on ourselves with the choices we made and the things we did and did not do. So here are some little tips and bits of advice to keep tucked away as you search for that special someone in your life and the things you need to know about that all important first date.
If you’re bored at the local bar or the normal hang out, you can try some new venues for your dating attempts. If the normal scene has grown dull, try someplace new. If you are not excited and invigorated you will not catch anyone’s eye and you will not impress if you do manage to get that first date right where you are at that moment.
Stop worrying that if you do find the perfect someone he/she will think you are too… whatever. Too fat, too thin, too short, too tall, too blonde, too smart, too nerdy… just stop it! Studies have shown that most guys prefer a modern career-minded woman while half of the men look for either a mix of the hottie or the girl next door type of date where girls seem to be more interested in good guys over bad boys and less than 10 percent will be happy with any guy they can get. If that special guy or gal cannot see the true you and accept you for that then they are not worth the time or the effort. Worrying about it before it even happens will just make you miserable. Here you find what people worry and care the most about on their first dates. Let us know in the comments below what you think is important!
What is important on a first date?
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A date is not a binding contract and it is not a life sentence either- no matter whether it goes well or not. Do not pressure yourself to get everything perfect the first date. Respect yourself enough to say no to date requests if the first date does not work out and do not be too hard on yourself if you are on the receiving end of a date request rejection. There are many things people look for during the first date and it can be hard to meet them all and earn that second date. As many as 30% of people say personality is most important, 10% focus on career and education levels, 23% look at physical traits like smiling and attractiveness, and 14% like their date to have a good sense of humor.Do not feel strange about going out by yourself when you are looking for someone to strike your fancy- dating does not have to be a group event. While you are single you have a certain freedom that is not there when you are surrounded by your friends. You know what you like and do not need to be swayed by things your friends whisper in your ear. Go with your likes and interests with things like personality, hair color, eye color, height, weight, and attitude. You are the one looking for a date so you need to focus on the things you find attractive.
The final important thing to remember about the first date is that you have to talk and listen. A good date is not just all about you or all about them. There needs to be a good share of talking and listening on both sides. A strong relationship is founded on communication and listening and the first date should start the potential relationship off that way. And the conversation needs to be truthful and honest, so avoid the big lies both sexes tend to tell on the first date- women often lie about their weight, physical aspects, and age while men often lie about their age, height, and income.